I ran into one of my boyfriend’s buddies at a Medical outing at the Philadelphia Art Museum. He’s an interesting fellow, a collector of Medieval Weaponry. He asked how I was doing and I told him I was doing my residency locally and that I was pretty jaded right now. I expected the usual response, something along the lines of reinforcing the prestige of the medical profession and saying other programs were foolish for not taking me.

That’s not what happened. He simply chuckled and when pressed admitted that Simon had predicted this entire sequence of events…15 months ago. Exaspirated I asked why Simon didn’t tell me.

Read on to find out why.

Though I argued to the contrary deep down I knew the truth: If Simon had voiced any of the things I now know a year or more ago not only would I have been furious, it would have prevented my own enlightenment. It’s one thing to come to the conclusion that what you do is of nominal consequence and quite another to have someone, particularly someone with whom you are intimate, tell you. In that instance your life becomes about proving that other person wrong instead of continuing down the path of growth and self-discovery.

Here at Debtor’s Prison we have all made some fairly blunt statements. Don’t go into debt for school. Don’t work for corporate entities with a high turnover rate. I want to step back from that because I don’t want to become just another voice on a list of people to prove wrong.  I don’t want to tell you what to do I simply want to share my experiences with you.

As for you old dog debtors watching the opportunity to marry, buy a house, have children pass you by don’t get frustrated when young bucks don’t listen. Sometimes people just need to see for themselves. If you let them they will come back to you and not have to fear hearing “I told you so.”